Print Edition: October 15, 2014
After flipping through the large online catalogue of sex positions from the Men’s Health website, she and I decided to try the cowgirl, better be described as the “woman-on-top” position. This sensual situation doesn’t require any form of gymnastic abilities, but it still feels rewarding and comfortable. This offers the female partner an advantage by letting her take charge over the male, along with more freedom and space than some other forms of sex, such as missionary.
The cowgirl allows a woman’s G-spot to be massaged repetitively by the male. With the G-spot being the target of this position, the clitoris doesn’t receive a lot of attention. On the bright side, this allows the orgasm to grow slowly before reaching its climax. For this reason it’s strongly advised to mix up the sex by throwing in a few deep and shallow thrusts randomly to break up the pattern. For both partners, the cowgirl offers a strong orgasm that slowly builds up rather than simply being a “big bang.”
That being said, my partner and I noticed that the woman-on-top does have a few downsides. For one, trying to get into that perfect position can be a bit of trial-and-error. Sitting either too far forward or too far back will cause an uncomfortable situation for both parties. Second, if participants are jockeying for control, rather than letting the girl on top take charge, she may quickly lose her balance.
If you’re not into the cowgir approach, don’t discard the idea just yet. The woman-on-top can also be altered into a reverse-missionary form, known as “chest-to-chest.” For those romantics who enjoy traditional sex, this is an easy way to spice up your bedroom activities. Unlike the cowgirl, with the woman kneeling over the male, the female leans down to hug the man. We found that the cuddling, which allowed me to take full control over the situation, helped create that emotional bond. This form of woman-on-top allows the male to stimulate the clitoris while still reaching the G-spot for that perfect orgasm.
This position creates a different atmosphere from traditional sex, it’s comfortable, and it can allow the woman to take full control over the sexual experience. For both parties, the cowgirl produces powerful climaxes without a lot of work or awkward positioning. The most important part of this position is to be in tune with your partner. Whatever role you play, the cowgirl is a truly rewarding experience and will definitely earn you some brownie points in the bedroom.