I think that having a partner in life is actually a basic human need that not everybody might feel — but it’s worked for me. I’ve been married for 21 years. No complaints so far. It’s all good.
I don’t think that the same people can be together for a long period of time. It’s not possible; people change, people grow, y’know? And they either grow together or they grow apart. Most of the time, they grow apart … People change too much. And if they don’t change, then they’re not living.
You don’t want to be alone for the rest of your life. You want to have children, which you don’t necessarily have to be married for but it’d be nice, good, better for children. If you have children, and you’re not married, and let’s say there are different religions involved, for example. Growing up on a different religion-basis might be a little difficult. And, I don’t know, dating sucks!
Yeah, financially it really works for a lot of people. You get tax credits, and, yeah, it’s great that way, I understand. Common-law, that’s a thing, too. Oh! And within the context of wanting to make people hate each other over the long term when a relationship starts out on love, it also is highly effective!
I do [believe in marriage]. It goes with my religious beliefs, so that’s good. But I also have a friend who does not believe in marriage, and I agree with his reasoning. So, I think I believe in it if the person getting married does. If you’re coerced in a marriage, then it’s a mess.
I believe in marriage because it’s a natural thing for humanity. It progresses us, and I think there are some merits to two people being together to make the world a better place. I think that’s how we can grow the world and encourage families to occur. And we can have children raised up in a manner in which they are given two parents that can help them learn the aspects of what it is to be a human being.
Jen Sookfong Lee
I think it’s impossible to get everything you need from one person for the entire rest of your life. We need multiple people in our lives, not necessarily partners but friends, family. Contemporary, modern pressure on marriage is for those two people to be each other’s world and for them not to need anyone else, and I think that’s far too much pressure. So, unless we change our perceptions on marriage, then I’m against it.
I think you should get married. It’s like the next step in a relationship, and it’s more of a commitment because it’s harder to break, whereas if you’re not married you can just break up and there’s less consequence.