People that know me say I’m pretty calm — sometimes even too calm. “How can you not feel angry about that?” is a question I’ve gotten more than once when something happens that could understandably make someone angry, but not me. Perhaps the simple answer is that I don’t like feeling angry, so I choose not to be. The real answer, however, is that I’m not immune to anger, but rather I am very picky about when to get angry.
Anger is very intense, it demands a lot of energy, it can strain the body if taken to an extreme. Yet, completely disregarding it is not healthy either. I like to care for my energy as much as possible, so I’ve always found ways to process my anger differently. Whether by analyzing how one thing led to another and ultimately that understanding washes anger away, or by channeling it through different methods.
Most of the time, I find that life’s happenings aren’t worth my anger. If there’s another way to go about it, I will likely find it and spare the strain.
If one day, however, you catch me openly saying that I’m pissed off, you’ll know shit got real.F
